Mentorship is a valuable resource that helps you advance in life with lesser bumps in the road. Today’s guest is here to iterate the value and benefit of having a mentor or guide not only in your career but in life. Amy Hamilton is a psychic, a business and medical medium, and the owner of Amy Hamilton Helps, where she helps women deal with their professional and personal issues. She joins Pamela Wirth to discuss her story and how she’s using her gift to help others find theirs. As an intuitive and a mom of a child with developmental issues, Amy highlights the importance of achieving that inner calm and taking care of yourself. Listen in to their chat to learn more.
I am here with Amy Hamilton of Amy Hamilton Helps. We look forward to hearing a little bit more about her story and her journey as she has embarked on so much. We met in business school many years ago and went on those paths. We have now found our own way in terms of what fulfills our hearts and helps people, which is the most important part. Amy, tell us a little bit about you.
It is so good to see you again. We met in such different places. Both of us are getting our MBAs with big plans and life has twists and turns. Twenty years in marketing and I was in the process of healing my son from a big developmental issue. We go in and when it is our kids, we try everything. Through that process, one of the places I went to was I went and consulted with the psych, which was pretty out there for what I was looking at.
She gave me fabulous information that helped heal my children. She said, “You can do everything I can do.” I said, “You are crazy. I'm going to run a company.” I am, but it is a psychic company several years later. Now, I help people answer their questions. I work with corporate women who, some of us, deal with imposter syndrome, women who have kids with developmental issues and with teenagers to help them get on the path that they were brought here on this Earth to be. It is the most fulfilling work that I have ever done in my life. Thank you for having me.
As you step through this, do you have anything that people generally ask you first and foremost or a certain process that you follow? How does that typically work?
Based on my background in certain things, a lot of my focus is on the medical area. People call that a medical intuitive. When I work with someone and they are asking about a medical issue, which I see as a developmental issue. They show up as medical issues sometimes. I see them in four areas. First is, is this a medical need. Do we refer to a doctor? Is there some imbalance in their body? Is there something that maybe needs to have a GI consult? Is there something that we need to look at medically?
The second area is, are they an empath? Are they bringing in other people's energy? Many of our kids these days feel what is going on around them. They might not have test anxiety, but they are in a room of kids who are so anxious that it brings them down. The third area is if there are emotional issues that translate into physical issues. Many times we have things that are going on in our life that we can't speak about, for example, and our throat hurts. We have all these throat issues and they are unexplained. A lot of times, that has to do with what you are not talking about. It’s your throat chakra. Things that are areas there.
The fourth area, which for both of us are pretty grounded in reality, is a little out there, is if there is a generational trauma or if there is something that happened in the past life, something that does not reside in that person's body. There was a history of trauma in the family and it came into their body. Those are the four areas I look at and we craft a plan for how someone can move forward and heal.
How often do you typically meet with people? What does that process look like?
The old adage of putting the oxygen mask on first is so critical. If you’re putting everything into healing your child and not taking care of yourself, not doing the right vitamins, not getting the right sleep, you’re not going to be present in your children.
It varies. If I'm working with a VP-level corporate exec, who's ready for that CEO level, sometimes that is a once-a-week process until we can get them and there where they want to be. My son has this issue, and I do not know what doctor we can go to. That can be once. We can sit down and understand what they are going through, what they have to heal from. Here are ten doctors and here is some direction.
As you have navigated some much, what have been some of the more impactful mentors in your life? What does that look like?
I love and hate that question at the same time because I struggled with the word mentor for so long. As women, we struggle with this like, “I'm going to be in charge of myself. I'm not going to rely on someone else that we see personally and I'm going to have someone guide me.” One of my best mentors stepped in at a very critical place in business school, where I was going on a high-powered route. I was going to take this job. We were going to go with this corporate strategy. It was going to be these long hours.
He, in a moment where a mentor should say, “Here is where you can go professionally and all these things,” he said, “What do you want out of your life?” It changed my trajectory. I did not realize that until several years later when I had what he asked about. It was when he was asking those impactful. I wasn't married. I didn’t have kids. I didn't have any of these things, but I feel like we have these pushes that come into our lifetime at that perfect moment. Even if I'm meeting with someone once, if I'm able to that up-leveling, that push, “You go this way. Not that way. This way is better.”
I certainly can relate to that too. So much of my life, probably until I hit about 40, was doing things that I thought I should do rather than things that I wanted to do. Now, I'm part of so many C-level groups and one of the first questions we always ask each other is, “What do you want?” I wish that we did that more as younger people and environments where we can do that. One of the things that I try and do with everybody I work with is I do an independent development plan and get to the bottom of what they want in their personal, professional, spiritual or mental space. I wish we did that more often because it took me way too long to get there.
One of my favorite female mentors always talks about, “What is the future you want? What would future you in six months say about this situation? What do you want it to look like? What would future you in five years want this look like?” That gives you a lot of perspective in saying, “I'm stuck in this.” We get stuck in our own problems so many times, but what do you want this to look like in six months? What do you want this to look like in five years? What do you want this to look like in the future?
That is where those coaches and mentors are so critical because we can't see ourselves. In six months, you can do, but five years? You need to use people who have been down the road before who have some mileage on them like we do now. They can look in the rearview mirror and say, “This would have been helpful at a certain moment.”
Even now, I find it scary to sit down, think on that and say, “What do I want?” It may or may not align with the certain path that you are now. It is scary.
I would not say I have this long-term mentor, but I have these impactful conversations that people might not even know that they are having with me. I remember being at a place of pretty success. I was young and asking someone who I thought was super successful. She was probably my age. I thought she was old at the time. I said, “How did you become this successful? How did you get to where you know what you want?”
She goes, “Are you talking to me? Am I an adult? I'm still trying to figure it out.” What it gave me was it is okay to try something and switch. Many of us, especially women, feel like we should have all the answers and that we should know. It is okay to change. It is okay to start and say, “This was a bad idea, but I'm going to glean the learnings that I got from an important time and then go make another decision.” I feel like we are so hard on ourselves so many times that we feel like, “I did the wrong thing.” When a lot of times, that is part of the path that you need to be on to grow.
One of the funnier things that you probably encounter too in your role as an intuitive is people probably assume that you can see everything that is going on all the time. I do not think that it is necessarily the case.
The reason I laugh is that there are certain people and even friends of mine, if they are doing something that they probably should not be doing, they will not be around me because they think I have x-ray vision. I do a pretty good job. I have worked on this a lot over the years of turning it off and turning it on because it is too much when you feel everyone's everything all the time. That is a lot and exhausting.
There are things that blindside me all the time. My husband would love me to know lottery numbers. That would be fabulous to see those. We do not have those gifts, and sometimes, it is not meant to see. There are people that I have worked with, and I'm like, “Do not get anything. I'm not your intuitive. I'm not your reader.” It is all about timing. You can see a clear picture when it happens in two days or it is happening in two years. Here is a funny secret that a lot of psychics or intuitive have. You are able to turn it off when you are in control, but if you see me with a glass of wine, no holds barred. Do not ask me a question.
Do you find that it is more short-term that you can feel or is it also longer-term?
It is interesting because every intuitive that you work with, they have different skillsets and see things differently. From what I see is, I'm tuning into your guides, the people that are with you. It depends on what your people are sharing. I was working with a mom who had a son who was not eating very well. She needs to go to a doctor right away. It is very short-term. Here are the four things that have to happen right now versus there are others that have a longer path. It is how their guides share what they are supposed to be doing.
I always start out with what questions they are looking for because a session is so much about what you need to get out of it. Someone may be calling you and they are like, “I want to get that CEO job.” We will talk about why do they want that, “That might not be necessary for your life. Let's talk about all of the pieces that you want your life to look like,” versus, “My son needs to eat next week.” The questions hear what information comes through.
There’s no perfection in meditating. There's no perfection in inner calm. There's no perfection. We are all here having a human experience and we all make mistakes.
These guides, are there typically a certain number? Are they angels? Are they secular? What does that look like?
It is a whole mix. I use the term guides because that was what was told that you use. It is the people who are around you. Sometimes that is as big as a higher power like Jesus, whoever you connect with, and sometimes it is your grandmother who needs to share that you're not taking such good care of yourself and you need to eat better.
I do find that people are with folks in times in periods of their lives. Sometimes they are louder and sometimes they are softer. I believe that everyone has different gifts and everyone hears these things, but a lot of times, myself included, we like to adjure. “You are someone you know. You shouldn't eat that thing.” We all know and you are like, “That is not going to feel good.” Your intuition is telling you, “Don’t do it.” You are like, “I'm going to do it.” You fail to see. We have free will. We are allowed to do this.
In the process of healing your kids, was there anything in particular that you would recommend to other people, any things, foods, processes or anything in particular that comes to mind that you think would be generally helpful?
Here is the most important thing that I find with almost all of the parents that I work with. You are the most important. Your children are a reflection of you and that old adage of putting the oxygen mask on first is so critical. If you are putting everything into healing your child and you are not taking care of yourself. If you are not doing the right vitamins or not getting the right sleep, you are not going to be able to be present.
Our children, especially kids who are impacted by developmental issues, are so intuitive. They can feel our hurt and pain. The most important thing, which is the least thing that any mother or father does, is to take care of yourself because if you are strong, you are able to be there for your child. You are able to hear your own intuition because your gut is going to tell you, “This doctor feels good. This doctor does not feel good.”
When your stomach isn't there, you haven't slept in three nights and you haven't taken care of yourself, it is not able to be there. What seems the antithesis of what any mom wants to do, I want you to eat right, take the vitamins, meditate or spend a moment for yourself. I'm here at a fabulous retreat. Do those things and even little moments because they are going to help you get to a place of intuition.
I always feel there are two voices we have. One is our own ego. It is the one that says, “You are stupid. You have your parents' voice, the mean first boss that you had, the mean kids in the kindergarten and all this.” That is the ego. We have our intuition, which gives us divine guidance, information and that gut that says, “I need to go down this road now.” “This job might be better.” “That doctor feels good. I should talk to this and that.” It is very hard to hear that voice because it is nice and calm.
Collectively, it is easier to hear the mean voice, the one that has all of the compilation of all of our own stuff. The more you take care of yourself and inner calm, the more you are able to hear your own inner gifts and that intuition, which is always sweet. It is always calm and gives the right direction. That is what I would recommend.
Is there anything else besides anything that I may or may not have covered related to intuition, health and wellness? Is there anything that comes to mind that you want to share?
It is not a point in time. It is a journey. There is no perfection in meditating, inner calm and in anyone. We are all here having a human experience and we all make mistakes. If it doesn't work, try something different. There is so much out there that is customized and something that works for someone else may not work for you. Try things and then adapt. It is not the end if you do something wrong.
Thank you, Amy. If people want to learn more about you and what you do, where can they find you?
My website is Amy Hamilton Helps and I'm on Instagram @AmyHamiltonHelps. They can reach out to me. I schedule private appointments and I do corporate events as well.
Thank you so much, Amy.